These 12 questions will help you determine your partner’s conscience.
Much of how a person acts in a relationship is related to the maturity and functioning of his/her conscience. A partner with a poor conscience is one who leaves you feeling forgotten, unappreciated and unloved over and over again. Your conscience has two functions: to monitor your actions and attitudes and to transport you into another’s perspective that prompts understanding and compassion.
You don’t want to find yourself dating a person with a poor conscience, or worse, married to one. How do you determine if a potential partner has a poor conscience? We’ve compiled a list of 12 questions you can answer about a person to help you find out!
- How consistent are they with attitudes and behaviors they say and believe?
- What do they feel strongly about? Right and wrong?
- How do they handle it when they are wrong?
- How defensive are they?
- What type of things make them feel guilty?
- Do they understand and validate your perspective?
- How do they respond to your explanation of your view and feelings?
- How do they react to authority figures?
- How controlling are they?
- What special things do they do for you?
- What are their moods like? How stable or unstable are they?
- How much attention do they give to your needs — both spoken and unspoken?
Note: It takes about three months for deep-seeded patterns to show in a relationship. For this reason, it may be hard to determine if a person has a poor conscience if you have not known him or her for very long.
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This article was written by Megan Hargraves, Media Specialist with Healthy Relationships Utah, firstname.lastname@example.org.